What is Lust?
Happy Monday Ladies!
This week we will be unpacking a deadly vice that we probably have heard about a lot, but maybe haven't truly taken the time to think about how deeply it can infiltrate how we view and treat those around us:
This week I wanted to hang out with St. John Paul II and have him guide our reflections. Sometimes, we think that lust is simply desiring another person, but it goes deeper than that.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church defines lust as a “disordered desire or inordinate enjoyment of sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is morally disordered when sought for itself, isolated from its procreative and unitive purposes” (CCC 2351).
Again I want to view this under the lens of pride.
Lust says: “I want you for my own pleasure, gain and desire. I want to use you.” Many times that exact term does not get used, in fact it pretty much never gets used.
The word “use” is not a common word that we say even though indirectly that is exactly what we mean.
According to St. John Paul II “to use means to employ some object of action as a means to an end” (Love and Responsibility, pg. 25).
Anytime one approaches another person as a means to an end, a way of getting the fulfillment they want, they are using that person.
It's also important to note that using a person does not only mean physically through sex.
We can use people in many different ways. We can use them emotionally, for example, when we only want them to fulfill an emotional void that we are feeling. Many times we try to mask use by covering it up with a false image of love. We will be diving more into love and the combating virtue later on this week, but it is important to remember that love never seeks to fulfill its own gain or satisfaction.
If we need to constantly be defending our position and convincing ourselves that we are not using each other, that might be a red flag to reflect and open our eyes to the reality that we might be falling into the shadow of use.
A person should never be used as a means to an end, especially when it comes to sexual pleasure, because we are lowering their value down to that of an object for our own gratification (Love and Responsibility, pg. 34).
My dear ladies, if we allow ourselves to really take a moment and reflect we know when we are being used and we can also know when we are using another person.
Today I want us to again ask the Holy Spirit to open our hearts and enlighten us in areas where we use others and act out of lust towards men. This is not just a male issue, it is one that we face just as much.
Are we covering up actions of use with a false idea of love or objectifying others as means to our own gratification? Are we giving into those desires through social media stalking or day dreaming fantasies? Are we allowing ourselves to be used by others?
Come Holy Spirit and give us the light to see where we use others or allow ourselves to be used.
Walking together, -Sandra