The mask of "perfect"
Allow me to quickly share with you one of the effects of perfectionism... The other day, I got orange highlighter on my finger (absolutely wild, I know) but I was too lazy to get up and wash it off so it remained there. Within 5 minutes I had gotten it on my lips, on another finger and different parts of my schoolwork.
This is what happens when we don't remove the attachment we have to perfectionism - it spreads to people and things around us. It creates an unnecessary tension, with it's most harmful effect being a strain on all our relationships - with God, with ourselves and with others - because we can't be our authentic selves or allow others to do the same, let alone receive love.
Perfectionism becomes our god as we do what it says, hence our distance with God. Showing the world our genuine self would mean accepting that we have shortcomings, quirks, weaknesses, a history of mistakes and that we actually don’t have it all figured out.
Whether or not I accept my imperfections doesn't change the fact that I am imperfect, so I might as well take a look at myself honestly and own the fact that I am just as worthy and loveable with them.
The mask of "perfect" had an unhealthy "function" for some time (behavior always serves a purpose), but it doesn't serve me anymore because I recognize what it is that I really need - intimacy with myself, God and others. Today, I choose to take the mask off and gradually allow the world to get to know the woman that God created, in all her strengths and limitations. I accept myself as I am and gently, yet assertively, challenge myself to greater heights.
PRACTICAL: the next time you try to straighten your hair without plugging in the hair straightener, allow yourself to laugh. Lighten the load on your heart because you're loved even when you forget that you need your car keys in order to start the car.
Allow yourself and others to be human.