Love vs. Lust
Updated: Mar 25, 2019
It's kind of crazy when we think about it. We live in a culture completely immersed in the Seven Deadly Sins, with Lust being one of the quite obvious ones.
From the moment we enter this world, media bombards us with messages of sex.
It's everywhere: in commercials, TV shows, movies, ads, billboards, social media, music videos — even the lyrics of the music are filled with sexual messages.
That particular one hit me last year when my friends and I went out for karaoke for my birthday. We put on songs that everyone knew and liked, but we were in shock when we saw the lyrics displayed on the screen. It was in that moment it really hit us all just how bad it really was.
A good seminarian friend of mine recently said that there's no way that the things we choose to watch and listen to don't affect our soul and our desires. They have to, even if it is on a subconscious level. This is why it's so important to guard our hearts and our minds and choose very carefully the shows we watch, the music we listen to, how much of it we watch, etc.
The majority of people in our society however, don't know this and take part in everything media has to offer. This quickly becomes their 'norm'. Before giving myself over completely to God, I was one of those people and it truly impacted everything in my life.
The way I talked, acted, dressed, my morals, etc. were all the product of the secular world and boy, it was bad. I have had a taste of what life is like when we give into the message of the world and it's so empty, sad, and depressing. It breaks my heart to think that there are some people who choose to have that as all they ever know.
I believe that media has a big role to play in creating what we know as the "hook-up" culture we now live in. It's so sad, but nowadays, sex has lost its sacred meaning. It's no surprise though, considering it's so freely shown everywhere. It is driven by lust and lustful desires, where authentic love has been shoved away and replaced with the brokenness that giving into lust comes with.
The biggest difference between love and lust is that love can wait to GIVE, and lust can't wait to GET. Love is focused on the good of the other and their soul, while lust is focused on the self and instant gratification of one's sinful desires. It leaves people being objects of USE rather than objects of LOVE, as the Great Saint John Paul II once put it.
Later this week we will dive into the Virtue that can help us overcome Lust, but for now, let's reflect a little bit more on:
Does lust impact our lives? If so, how?