Love or Fear?
For as long as I can remember I would avoid conflict at all cost. I went into what I like to call "peacekeeper mode" where I would avoid confrontation and just do whatever I needed in order to make the conflict go away asap, not caring what situation that left me in.
Needless to say, I developed very defensive reactions without realizing. I would close up and have passive aggressive moments where I would just check out and push people away. Being open and talking about how I feel to someone was not an option I wanted to take.
What was my emotional default reaction towards conflict? Fear.
My dear ladies, we have an option here. We can let fear have the power or we can let love take over. Did my fear and defensiveness bring closeness and proper conflict resolution in my relationships? Not one bit. If anything it caused more problems on top of the ones that were already there.
What's more, my friends would struggle to be open with me because of the atmosphere that my walls created. When I brought them down and took that scary step of being open about what I felt...it created a place of peace and love where true resolution and mending could happen.
Ask yourself that question today. When conflict arises what is your default emotional reaction? Love or fear? Start bringing your awareness to that today and don't let fear stand in the way of mending your relationships and allowing them to grow.
Conflict is not fun, and yes sometimes it can be destructive if we let it get out of hand. But conflict also brings about opportunities to grow together, and this applies to any kind of relationship. Let it strengthen you, not destroy you.
Let love become your default.
Walking Together, Sandra