Keep choosing to Trust
This isn't to pin anyone as the "bad guy" as we are all created by the same God and, as Christians, we all know who the bad guy is. This is also not a reason to excuse inexcusable behavior nor to misplace responsibility. This is a gentle reminder to be mindful of how we interpret the events around us. I can't tell you how many times I've explained social rejection as resulting from my inadequacy. Or someone's lack of support as being proof that they don't care about me. Sometimes our interpretations are correct, but we frequently come to conclusions way too quickly and/or harshly. Our mind wants to make sense of things so we quickly categorize things and people.
Often, however, there is more than meets the eye, and if we could take a step back and consider all potential options, then loving ourselves and others could be a little easier. Sometimes we may fall into taking things personally as a means to control thinking that if we are the reason then we must be the solution. It can very hard to trust that God is really in control. It's okay to feel that way. Keep choosing to trust in spite of this. Next time you feel personally hit by someone's behavior or words, look at it as an opportunity to get to know yourself a little better. It is true that some things really sting and that's okay, sit with those too. Observe your reactions (internal and external) and reflect on them, bringing them to Christ and someone else you can count on.