Heart in your household
Many of you ladies probably recognize the famous line from the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" where Tula's mom tells her, "The man is the head but the woman is the neck, and she can turn the head any way she wants."
I remember I would always joke about that line with my friends, and honestly I never thought too much into it.
During my engagement, my dad (God Bless this man's wisdom!), decided to challenge my joking line when he said, "No Sandra, the woman is not the neck. She is the heart."
....and mic drop**
Since then I have strongly decided to change my perspective from a funny movie line, to the truth we as women are called to live.
My dear ladies, you are not called to be the neck of your family. When I think about what it would look like being the neck, it would be a constant control struggle and quite honestly it would be against the beautiful teachings of what our role as a woman is meant to be. I always go back to St. Paul's writing in his Letter to Ephesians (Eph 5:21-33), the common "controversial" passage of submission. I say controversial in quotations because it is one of the most misunderstood passages...in my opinion at least.
As we were choosing our readings for our wedding, my husband and I decided to choose this exact reading as our second one. When I finally understood what St. Paul meant in those words, I knew this was the way I was called to live out my role as a wife, and God willing one day a mother.
By being the heart of my family I support my husband in fulfilling his mission given to him as the head of our family. His mission to lay down his life for his bride and love her, just like Christ did. This doesn't mean I am lower or less than...not even close! If you think about the function of the heart in a human body, it is what keeps it alive! It pumps blood to every part down to the cellular level. The body cannot function without the heart!
The same is in the family. Ladies, you are that beating heart in your household. You pump life and love into every member of your family. You are that super glue that holds everyone together. This role we have been given is crucial in our society!
Archbishop Fulton Sheen said this, "Not only does a mother renew life by giving life to the next generation; she plants seeds that flourish into culture. Culture derives from woman - for had she not taught her children to talk, the great spiritual values of the world would have not passed from generation to generation." (The Marian Option by Carrie Gress, p183-184)
I want to challenge the "neck-narrative" today! May we become that beating heart in our families, and so bring the love and life that God has entrusted us to pass on.