In an excerpt from Margaret Silf's book, Inner Compass, she shares her observation on bee behavior. As she watched bees roam from flower to flower, she noticed that they would only enter specific flowers, and only if these flowers were opened.
In her description, it seemed as if these bees accepted the fact that some flowers were closed and simply moved on to what was available to them.
Sometimes we try to open the flowers that are closed… this looks like us trying so hard to force something that is not meant to happen, that is not yet ready, or that is being approached in the wrong way.
The more we try, the more flustered and energy-deprived we become, and the more we miss what is available to us.
We don't have to keep holding onto what is hurting us.
What we can do instead is learn to make like a bee and go to the pollen that is already prepared for us, and trust that if we're supposed to get to the closed flowers, we will 🐝
For more, check out the short excerpt by Margaret Silf https://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ignatian-prayer/the-spiritual-exercises/the-meaning-of-detachment/ (it's only a few-minute read!)